16. How To Save A Marriage After Infidelity: Authentically Using Empathy To Heal After Sexual Betrayal

Betrayal trauma adds a complex layer to relational recovery. Sex and porn addiction takes a toll on the betrayed partner and they will need specific things to heal the marriage and rebuild trust. Empathy for their pain is one of the big ones. But, being empathetic is easier said than done. Often guys report that empathy statements feel unnatural and robotic.

In this episode, I interview Kristin Snowden. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and coach specializing in crisis couples issues related to addiction recovery, intimacy disorders, and betrayal trauma. She offers free and low-cost resources through her website and YouTube channel. Kristin incorporates treatment modalities like attachment theory, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Polyvagal Theory, and Dr. Brené Brown’s research on shame and vulnerability. She runs a private practice in Westlake Village, California and is a regular content provider for SexandRelationshipHealing.com. Kristin and I discuss why empathy can be so difficult for men to show when they are trying to heal after sexual betrayal. We break empathy down into its parts, in an effort to make it easier for men to put into practice.

It’s challenging for a sex addict to be empathetic when your wife is hurting because of something that is your fault. But, it’s possible and necessary for her healing. This episode will help you put empathy into action.

Kristin’s website, KristinSnowden.com provides valuable tools and support for those struggling in and out of their relationships, including course material, articles, and live online groups. She is the co-author of Life Anonymous: 12 Steps to Heal and Transform Your Life.

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